Written by Aneesa Moidu, Psychologist
I am 30 years old and have been married for three years.
My spouse’s job requires him to travel every three months.
It annoys me and annoys me when he’s not around because he doesn’t respond to my calls or messages promptly.
I think he has plenty of time to do more than just reply to my messages.
How can I resolve this? It’s understandable to feel irritated and irritated when your husband doesn’t respond to your calls or messages right away.
However, these feelings may stem from an insecure attachment style that seeks more security and intimacy in relationships.
Therefore, it is important to realize that your feelings are valid and that you are not alone in this struggle.
First of all, it’s important to acknowledge your feelings and accept them without judgment.
It’s okay to feel this way and you need understanding and support.
Recognizing how you’re attached is an important step because it allows you to work on understanding the root causes of your feelings of anxiety and abandonment.
Remember that you have the power to transform these negative experiences into positive, corrective attachment experiences.
Start by being kind and patient with yourself. Think back to a moment in your life when you felt loved and worthy, both by others and from within.
These memories serve as a foundation for building self-esteem and self-esteem.
Increasing your self-esteem will eliminate self-esteem issues and fear of rejection.
Building this requires thinking positively about yourself, accepting your mind and body, and understanding that the actions of others do not necessarily reflect your worth.
High self-esteem reduces the need for constant reassurance and reduces the fear of rejection.
Building connections with people who have a secure attachment style can provide valuable insight and support.
Understanding that your emotional needs are valid and learning how to communicate them effectively is important in any relationship.
Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and express your needs, even if it feels difficult at first.
Practicing mindfulness and self-regulation can help you work through difficult emotions and triggers.
Mindfulness allows you to be present in the present moment and helps you recognize and manage your emotional responses.
Self-regulation techniques, such as calming exercises and conflict resolution strategies, can help you handle situations more effectively.
Consider going to therapy as a safe space to explore your feelings and work through your attachment patterns.
Therapy can provide valuable tools and insight to help you understand the causes of your anxiety and guide you toward creating healthier and safer bonds with others.
Remember that change takes time. It’s okay to take small steps.
Be patient with yourself, celebrate your progress, and rely on the support of those around you.
You have the power within you to overcome and develop healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
View each day as an opportunity to grow and learn, and with determination and support, you can make positive changes to your attachment and overall well-being.
(The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of The Daily Tribune)